….and it’s that time and season of year when boy meets girl, man meets woman to profess and celebrate their love for each other.
Saint Valentine’s Day is a day in remembrance of Saint Valentine, February 14th, celebrated by sending tokens of love to our loved ones. (The rest is history).
“And yet I ask myself, why is it that people celebrate their loved ones only in this season of love? Why do we have to show love most especially this season only? Why do everyone think this season of love is just about professing love and exchanging gifts for each other”?
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Let’s begin
LOVE!!!
If you ask me, I would say love is an intense attraction towards someone or a profound affection towards someone. (There are countless definitions of love).
Love is beyond the physical. It existed in the bible, we all know the popular verse “John 3:16”
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life – (John 3:16 KJV).”
Love is not supposed to be a seasonal thing, it’s something that has to dwell in us, live and grow in us always. Loving someone genuinely is way more than a thing of the mouth. Take for instance, the way God loves every one of us genuinely and always.
P.S- God’s love is not seasonal but always.
Question- How can we cultivate the habit of loving genuinely and always?
Answer- It takes the grace of God to love genuinely and love always, no matter what your neighbor does to you. (If you allow God, he will teach and direct you)
Some people believe love doesn’t exist. Why? Many reasons! Heart breaks of all kinds, and many more. Love still exist! And yes it does! It all about loving in the right way, loving the right person and loving genuinely.
IGNITE THE LOVE!!!!
It’s never too late to set things right in your relationship. A relationship that is going to work needs to have “give and take”. Just as in the act of tango dancing, you can only keep interest in the relationship and your partner – if you work together to keep the sparks going.
The bible says in Amos 3:3
“Can two walk together, except they be agreed?”
P.S- Relationships are not built on what you feel you deserve but instead on what you are willing to give up for the benefit of the other person.
How can we keep the spark ignited? The intrigue, the romance and integrity of the tango are essential aspects of the dance and of your relationship with your partner.
You start off in a relationship as a novice dancer, unsure of where the relationship is going, but you have an interest in wanting to find out more about your partner. The more you work together, the stronger you become in the relationship you share.
As you continue and grow as individuals and as a couple, so this allows you to flourish in the dance of tango. You need to be realistic about the stage of the tango you are in. You need to ask yourself; are you doing your bit to keep the tango going with your partner? Or is it time to find a new partner if this relationship is not giving you what you need?
Here are some of the key principles that are needed to set a firm and solid foundation to a sweet and awesome relationship:
- Trust
- Love and commitment
- Quality time
- Honesty
- Communication
- Compromise
- Spontaneity
- Accommodation
- Fun and laughter
- Encouragement and support
- Respect
- Friendship
- Responsibility
Ask yourself, where you lie within each of these areas. Moreover, explore where your partner fits within all these. It helps to see what is happening within your relationship; the good, the bad and the ugly.
P.S- To set a firm and solid foundation to a sweet and awesome relationship, you have follow this these key principles with the fear of God in your heart.
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Until next time,
Your friend,
Oluwatomisin Dammie Oshin
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