How To Get Over An Heart Break.

Life hit us in different ways. It takes one who has been through an heart break or a major challenge to understand how one feels in this situation.

A couple of weeks ago, someone reached out to me wanting to discuss an issue relating to relationships and heart break which were some major challenges the person was facing at that moment. So I was able to counsel her and took her through the journey of self identification and self rediscovery. I am happy she feels a lot more better and she’s gradually getting through that phase successfully.

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Heart breaks are in different contexts, it might not necessarily be a man to a lady relationship or whatsoever, it might even be a friend to friend relationship, parents to children, or even uncle to niece. An Heart break could even be as a result of a loved one’s death. Just basically what breaks your heart that could make you unhappy and sad for a period of time.

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Being unhappy could lead to many things;

1) Loss of Appetite.

2) Lack of Concentration and focus.

3) Over thinking (which could result to health challenges like Insomnia, high blood pressure, amongst other things).

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4) Living an unhealthy lifestyle. (For those who consumes alcohol so as to forget their worries).

5) Reduces ones fellowship with God. (Because hardly can you remember you haven’t had your devotions in days because you’re a thinking and will probably not even concentrate if you eventually did not forget).

And the list goes on and on…

Here are a few tips on how to get over an heart break.

1) First and Foremost; Rediscover yourself and rebuild your self esteem. Your mindset about yourself goes a long way on this journey, your value and love for yourself matters more than ever, focus on what you value in your life, focus on getting to know who you are and what you really stand for.

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2) Do a Detox in all areas of your life; I literally mean you should declutter. Clutter is an untidy collections of things in a space, which could be in your thoughts, your mindset, your life, your mental room, etc. You might need to declutter your social media, groups, some friends, your diet, your space, your wardrobe… You most likely need to declutter those things that literally brings back those memories of the heart break, you need to let go because life has to go on. That’s the bitter truth.

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3) Be honest with yourself. Let me tell you what, the best gift you can ever to gift yourself in that situation of an heart break is moving on. Moving on is that spectacular gift that keeps you going. If you don’t move on, you will keep dwelling on that and believe me, you have got dreams and goals waiting to be worked on. You shouldn’t let anything or anyone in the past weigh you down from reaching that desired goal. No one is an excuse for your failures. If you are not going to move on, you will probably remain on that spot. If you don’t forget the past, how would you want the future to come into your existence? So be honest with yourself and move on!

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4) Be strong for yourself; It’s okay to weep and cry, let the tears out. At some points you have to cry your eyes out. Please do. Let me tell you what, the tears brings what? Headache meaning you need to take pills for your health. So stop wailing in tears, what happened is to make you stronger than ever. If he dumped you, he is probably somewhere enjoying himself and not even thinking about you. Or if it’s the death of a loved one, the tears can never bring them back, they are gone forever and ever. So please be strong!!

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5) Forgive; Forgiveness is about You. Forgive yourself for all the wrong things you did, for all the times you have wasted crying and wailing in tears, forgive yourself for overthinking, sometimes if a relationship didn’t work out, it’s definitely not a good fit, and trust me, God has a better one for you. “They always say, a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.” So letting go and trusting God is one of the best decisions you will never regret you made.

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6) Get back on your feet; This is the point where I get to tell you to reflect on some things about yourself, your attitude and your negative sides because no one is perfect. We are imperfect creatures. You have to work on your negative sides to become a better version of yourself everyday. Be it anger issues, trust issues or whatsoever your ex partner had complained about you, work on it and prepare yourself for the next person God is bringing your way.

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7) Enjoy yourself; “Life is short” they say, if you don’t enjoy the moment and keep looking back at the past, then you are dulling yourself. You’ve got to enjoy yourself the right way, go on picnics with friends and loved ones, go see movies, give yourself some treats, visit tourist centers, do things that makes you happy, listen to songs and build good relationships with people.

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8) Trust God; Trust God through your healing processes. With God at the center of it all, your healing is certain. They always say “moving on is easier said than done”. You can make it easy for yourself when you commit it in God’s hand, commune with him always like you have never done before. He is the best friend and companion who will never fail you.

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Getting over an heart break, the secret lies within you. You have to help yourself. Make a decision to move on and you will be fine. Trust me.

Feel free to reach out to me on any of my social media platforms or shoot me an email. I am waiting to hear from you.

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Till next time, keep staying safe.

With all my Love,🤎

Dammie O.